You’re Not Too Much - You’re Finally Feeling
Have you ever been told you’re too emotional?
Too reactive. Too sensitive. Too intense.
It starts early for many of us. We cry in class. We yell when something feels unfair. We shake when we’re scared or overwhelmed. And what happens? We’re told to stop.
To be good. To calm down. To grow up. To stop making it harder for everyone else.
Eventually, we stop expressing what we feel, not because we’ve outgrown it, but because we’ve learned it isn’t safe to show.
We don’t stop feeling. We just stop letting anyone see it.
What if your emotional intensity isn’t dysfunction?
What if it’s your nervous system finally thawing?
What if your rage, your tenderness, your tears, your irritability, are actually signs that you’re no longer suppressing what’s real?
Most of us were taught that emotional control = strength. But emotional suppression is not the same as emotional maturity.
You can be high-functioning and still completely frozen. You can hold it all together, while slowly losing access to your truth.
When the freeze lifts, emotion returns, fast.
You might start crying in the car for no reason. Or feel waves of frustration toward people you never challenged before. You might find yourself shaking after a hard conversation, or suddenly overwhelmed by grief that’s years old.
And that’s the moment where most people think:
“I’m falling apart.”
“I thought I was getting better.”
“Why am I regressing?”
But here’s the truth:
You’re not falling apart.
You’re thawing.
And thawing feels messy, because you’re not numb anymore.
Emotional release isn’t instability. It’s return.
It’s easy to confuse emotional expression with being out of control, especially if you’ve been praised for being chill, easygoing, or selfless.
But healing isn’t about being calm all the time.
Healing is about becoming a safe place for your full emotional range.
That includes:
Grief that needs to be felt, not explained
Anger that signals your boundaries were crossed
Tears that don’t need to be justified
Anxiety that’s actually stored survival energy moving through
You’re not broken for feeling too much. You’re finally real.
Real-Life Example
A woman once told me, “I used to pride myself on how unbothered I was. I thought that was strength. But now I cry when people raise their voice, and I hate it.”
I asked her:
“What if that’s not weakness, what if that’s the part of you that finally feels safe enough to react?”
She didn’t need to fix her emotional response. She needed to reframe it as evidence of return, not breakdown.
Nervous system healing doesn’t always look peaceful.
It often looks like:
Mood swings
Emotional flooding
Crying more
Feeling anger rise faster
Sensitivity to sound, energy, tone
But these aren’t malfunctions. They’re signals, that your body is no longer willing to suppress what it had to in order to survive.
You’re not unstable. You’re becoming emotionally honest.
Journal Prompt for Self-Reflection
When did I first learn that feeling too much made me unsafe or unlovable?
What part of me did I shut down to keep the peace?
Let it come. Not as a performance, but as a return.
Write it. Whisper it. Witness it.
This is why I made The Descent Ritual
If you're feeling raw, emotionally intense, or like you're finally meeting what’s underneath the numbness...
You don’t need another tool to fix yourself.
You need a place to feel.
And that’s what this is.
The Descent Ritual
A 7-minute voice-led ritual to feel what’s been waiting
No journaling required. No performance. Just presence.
